The Skully Files 2
“Well behaved women rarely make history” is one of my favourite sayings of all time, and nothing could be truer, but it was something that took me years to realize what the term means and make it my daily mantra for living.
I was raised, as were many other women I know by old school values. Both my adoptive parents came over from Scotland in the late 1950’s along with my mother’s parents. The way my brother and I were raised was the way my parents were raised. Men were always the boss, even my brother, the little shit he was, ruled the roost. I was raised to cook, clean and be the perfect housewife, because that was how women were to be back than. Children only spoke when spoken to, you sat up straight, you ate all your dinner or it was sitting there for you in the morning. Have you ever eaten cold chicken noodle soup in the morning, well, it’s fucking disgusting!! Never talk back no matter whether you were right or wrong, family secrets were always kept behind closed doors because god forbid anyone knew and that strap always hung in the kitchen doorway.
I was always a quiet girl, very sheltered and naïve, but there has always been something in me no matter how many times I was told a girl shouldn’t act a certain way, I just wanted to fight back no matter the consequences.
Don’t get me wrong I always did what I was told. I obeyed the rules they put forth. Hell I was to scared not to, but even back than I never agreed with the “women can’t do that” belief that my father had. Let’s just say it took me a bit, but I was my fathers best helper when it came to the work he did and before he passed away he actually started looking forward to my next tattoo.
It took me awhile to be the fighter I am today and it was never easy. We give birth. We bleed. We work, we raise our children, etc., etc., etc…. As women we will always be the more emotional species. It’s the way we were built. Read the book “Men are from Mars Women are from Venus”, it’s true it’s in our DNA.
There are many women in history who have been fighting for years before I was even born. “On Oct. 18, 1929, women are finally declared “persons” under Canadian law. The historic legal victory is due to the persistence of five Alberta women”. How’s that for a fact, sad, but its how it was back than.
So I guess the point I am trying to get across is don’t let your history or your DNA define you. Be that woman that changes history. Be that woman to set an example for other women around you that you can achieve anything you set your mind to and being emotional should never be seen as a weakness, but as a strength because when it all comes down to it changes in history are done with heart…..
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About The Author
Skully
Creator of Dollz By Dezign. Founder and Minister of The Ministry of Morrigans Cross and Originating Founder and President of Morrigans Cross WMC
Skully
Creator of Dollz By Dezign. Founder and Minister of The Ministry of Morrigans Cross and Originating Founder and President of Morrigans Cross WMC
First let me introduce myself, my name is Skully, the Founder of Dollz by Dezign. I am a woman of many hats for many reasons, but I do not believe in labeling ourselves to define who we really are. Each hat I wear is there because one of my biggest belief’s is that by leading by example, I can show other women that anything is possible in life if you try, even when life gets scary and you think you have no other options left. Many of us experience or live with road blocks that make us feel that we’re not meant for anything greater. That we should just settle. That were never good enough. But the reality is, we as individuals allow these things to hold us back. I’ve learned over time, and that I am still learning, is that what I thought defined me, what I believed held me back from seeing my true authentic self, was never anyone else’s fault but my own. It is true that the shitty things that happen in your life make the work that much harder, but it is only you who is in charge of how your story plays out. It’s up to you to rewrite it, no matter how many changes need to be made, to take your power back.
I stopped blaming my past, as blame will get you nowhere. Instilling that drama in your life is a waste of an emotion and space, so why not learn from it and create a better future for yourself. Learn from your mistakes. Leave the garbage at the curb. Own your shit. Forgive yourself and realize that sometimes you just need to take a step back in order to move forward. No one is perfect. Just know that with each baby step your take, and with each hurdle you overcome, and with each accomplishment you achieve, life will be that much easier, living each day knowing that you at least tried.
Why am I telling you all these things? Well because this is what makes up the whole purpose and is the entirety of Dollz By Dezign being in existence. It’s the “you go girl”, in your face, no sugar coated support network of women. It’s purpose is to either give you a pat on the back, or an abrupt nudge to bring you back to senses. We’re here to help you realize you deserve better. It’s the help and support of so many other women out there like myself to give you that extra push to take that power back, because trust me it’s there, and always has been.
Dollz by Dezign was a vision of mine which I created a few years back. The basis still remains the same, but I needed to rewrite my own story to move forward. Change is scary, but brilliant all the same. It’s when you realize that to move forward you also need to change the things that are important to you. So it is with excitement that I am introducing the newly revamped Dollz By Dezign. With restructuring, a brand new look, out of the box, no filter, more in your face blogs such as Girl With No Name, Real Men Don’t Abuse Women, So Tell Me What You Really Think and The Skully Files, and newly created education and mentorship programs such as The Believe Foundation, The Geriatric Foundation and Crochet For A Cause, and so many other pretty kickass things for women to show up, be seen and take part in, and the oldie but the goodie like The Doll Challenge, the vision is still the same, that if helping not only one woman, and the possibility of many more as well, realize their full potential, she has a choice of how her life will play out, and will then be the best version of her true authentic self that she has always truly deserved.
Let’s all work together to redezign the world we live in, contributing to everyone around us.
Much love,
Skully