Dollz By Dezign
Who We Are
First let me introduce myself, my name is Skully, the Founder of Dollz by Dezign. I am a woman of many hats for many reasons, but I do not believe in labeling ourselves to define who we really are. Each hat I wear is there because one of my biggest belief’s is that by leading by example, I can show other women that anything is possible in life if you try, even when life gets scary and you think you have no other options left. Many of us experience or live with road blocks that make us feel that we’re not meant for anything greater. That we should just settle. That were never good enough. But the reality is, we as individuals allow these things to hold us back. I’ve learned over time, and that I am still learning, is that what I thought defined me, what I believed held me back from seeing my true authentic self, was never anyone else’s fault but my own. It is true that the shitty things that happen in your life make the work that much harder, but it is only you who is in charge of how your story plays out. It’s up to you to rewrite it, no matter how many changes need to be made, to take your power back.
I stopped blaming my past, as blame will get you nowhere. Instilling that drama in your life is a waste of an emotion and space, so why not learn from it and create a better future for yourself. Learn from your mistakes. Leave the garbage at the curb. Own your shit. Forgive yourself and realize that sometimes you just need to take a step back in order to move forward. No one is perfect. Just know that with each baby step your take, and with each hurdle you overcome, and with each accomplishment you achieve, life will be that much easier, living each day knowing that you at least tried.
Why am I telling you all these things? Well because this is what makes up the whole purpose and is the entirety of Dollz By Dezign being in existence. It’s the “you go girl”, in your face, no sugar coated support network of women. It’s purpose is to either give you a pat on the back, or an abrupt nudge to bring you back to senses. We’re here to help you realize you deserve better. It’s the help and support of so many other women out there like myself to give you that extra push to take that power back, because trust me it’s there, and always has been.
Dollz by Dezign was a vision of mine which I created a few years back. The basis still remains the same, but I needed to rewrite my own story to move forward. Change is scary, but brilliant all the same. It’s when you realize that to move forward you also need to change the things that are important to you. So it is with excitement that I am introducing the newly revamped Dollz By Dezign. With restructuring, a brand new look, out of the box, no filter, more in your face blogs such as Girl With No Name, Real Men Don’t Abuse Women, So Tell Me What You Really Think and The Skully Files, and newly created education and mentorship programs such as The Believe Foundation, The Geriatric Foundation and Crochet For A Cause, and so many other pretty kickass things for women to show up, be seen and take part in, and the oldie but the goodie like The Doll Challenge, the vision is still the same, that if helping not only one woman, and the possibility of many more as well, realize their full potential, she has a choice of how her life will play out, and will then be the best version of her true authentic self that she has always truly deserved.
Let’s all work together to redezign the world we live in, contributing to everyone around us.
There are so many great women and men in this world that deserve recognition for their efforts to make the world a better place and they do so selflessly. These women and men are the true Philanthropists of the world and they deserve the utmost respect for all the amazing things they do.
The word Philanthropist has always truly amazed me and true honour should be given to the men and women who wear this crown, as to me they are the most caring people I know.
What does it truly mean to be a Philanthropist? It’s a term I have heard used, but never really understood the meaning behind it. I believed that it was a person who did a lot for charity, and selflessly. I decided to research it’s true definition in the Webster Dictionary. It stated, “ a person who loved people and made the active effort to promote the welfare of people and most often used to refer specifically to the practice of giving time and money to help make life better for others.”
After reading this I felt like I should probably contact Webster dictionary and tell them to get there shit together and redefine its meaning. Why? Because I feel, and it’s your decision to make of it what you believe, that those that do things for charity should be divided into two groups. This comes from my own personal experience of having the pleasure of working with the true Philanthropists of the world and those that do not deserve that title. The choice is yours to make but hopefully I can open your eyes, educate you, so that next time you make a choice to help someone, think first before you do. Ensure that those that are in need of help are getting what they require, and that the money is going exactly where you thought it should be going. It’s also to help you realize and put some thought into truly thanking the right people. It’s about morals. It’s about the ones that truly deserve our recognition for their efforts.
The first group is the little people, who I deem as the true Philanthropists. Those that are never truly recognized for all their hard work and efforts to make the world a better place. They are the most selfless group, who work so hard, give up their lives, and in most cases money out of their own pockets to make a difference in another persons life. From knowing these people, we generally just do what we do because we do not want another person to experience what we or our families have went through in the past. They are the people who do not need or want thanks to feel like a good person, nor do they want to be the centre of attention. They are the ones that make sure the money they raise, even if it is minimal, as they at least try, goes where it really needs to go, and not into some executives pocket. Some wear a cut on their back, which somehow unfortunately brings a stigma with it of instantly being labeled as bad people. People that are thought to be covering something up by doing something good. They know they are judged, but they still hold their heads high and walk away with a smile knowing they tried.
Then there is the second group who I feel deserve thanks for the amount they raise for charity, but not the recognition of being respected as a Philanthropist, as they are doing it for all the wrong reasons. Their personality is self serving. They love the spotlight and their heart is never truly into it. To them it’s a popularity contest on who can do it better and bigger. It sucks but its true, and unfortunately the reality of it is, for this group, is it takes money to make money, and they really do not care who or where it goes, and generally to them its just a tax right-off, or for the charities they raise so much money for. The executives with extremely large pockets.
Hopefully others will rethink before they give or donate next time. Do a little bit of research on your own. Start giving or donating to the charities that truly need our help and hopefully take the time and read the stories we want to share with you about the women and men we truly feel deserve recognition and praise for everything they do to make this world a better place. The world needs more people like them.
Thank you for all that you do.
Let’s all work together to redezign the world we live in, contributing to everyone around us.
The Skully Files
If you’re about to read my blog, I must forewarn you that at times I may not be politically correct. I have zero filter. I can be extremely sarcastic, but usually out of humour, as my friends are always saying I am here for entertainment purposes only. This, I do not take as an insult, as I feel having a sense of humour is important when getting through life because if your that kind of person who takes things too seriously, you will end up giving yourself a heart attack. I have bucket list a mile long, and just accomplishing anything off it not only shows true character, that you are a person of your word, a person with morals. Having morals are super important to me, but accomplishing things off that list also helps me get through my life knowing that having goals is important, and I honestly do not want to be that old lady, with 5 cats, even though I do have 5 cats, die thinking, I wish I had done that. I love learning new things. I love peoples stories and by living through my life, which can truly compared to a Jerry Springer episode, and still having the ability to exist and hold my head high, makes for some pretty awesome stories, and that I am a pretty damn interesting person. Also sufficed to say what some may say, mostly the men I have pissed off, I have a heart so big it is one of my biggest faults. I wouldn’t change it for the world no matter how many times it gets me stepped on, as it is also my greatest quality to become a leader, a woman with big shoulders, and will take a shit kicking for those other women around me if it helps if not only one women, but many other women around me find their true authentic selves. Most importantly I am not perfect, no one is, and we all fuck up, but owning it is half the battle. With that being said, I promise to be honest with whomever reads what I write.
I have chosen to do a blog of my own, not for pity or sympathy, but hopefully to help others realize that no matter how hard life gets, no matter what life throws at you, you have a chance to be a survivor, a choice to be who you want to be, and the right to be happy.
I’m going to try and help show you that’s it’s true, loving yourself is one of the most important things to learn, and once you have accomplished this, other things will fall into place. I’m still learning.
I will walk you through different stages and aspects of my life, and in the lives of others. I will introduce you to my views on the world we live in, but remember they are mine and you can take whatever view you want from them. I will introduce books I’ve read, things I’ve seen or experienced and the people I have met that have helped changed me into the better person that I am today.
I also hope to help you realize that life is too fucking short, live for today, not yesterday, reach for the sky because anything is possible. Love others, and most importantly just “be you”. Smile, because you may not know it now, but you have more power within yourself than you think.
Well behaved women rarely make history. Remember this always…
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